I am sitting this morning in a hotel room about 400 miles from home. I’m prepping for a presentation that I am giving today with my good friend Heather Henken of Half Halt at the PATH International Region 3 Conference entitled Navigating Emotions and Behavior: Creating a Supportive Learning Environment.

I am often struck by how complex and rich human experience is. I love all of the conversations I have had this week exploring the nature of emotions. The complexities of neurology. The dynamics of regulation. The interplay of our emotional lives with behavior and learning.

At the same time, no matter how deep or complicated or academic the discussions get, I am equally struck by how we so often reach a very simple conclusion. Being well and doing well is grounded in regulation. And, regulation is grounded in positive connection and relationships.

I love that we share this foundational dynamic with our horses. The same simple, yet profound truth… connection is key.

I have begun to think about each interaction with my horses in terms of this connection. Some of the pathways to positive, consistent connection seem natural and intuitive. It seems especially easy for me while I am on the ground. I can better see and hear my horse when I stand back a bit. Because of this, I am a better communicator and a positive partner.

What I dream for is the same connection from the back of my horse. How do I create (or co-create) a positive, safe and secure relationship when the channel of communication is through the reins and bit, through my legs and seat, through my balance and how I carry my body through space and time. How can I “see” my horse in these ways.

In a couple weeks time we will ride with Pippa Callanan. One of the great joys of riding with her is her ability to open that door for me and my horses a little bit wider each time. She has a gift for explaining and teaching riders and horses how to build and strengthen these channels of communication, ultimately creating the kind of connection that supports regulation.

One last thought, aspirations don’t change the world, actions do. However, it hard to act on what we don’t know. So, join me in creating a better more regulated world for all, horses and humans alike. Let us commit to learning and doing. If you’re free, come hang out with us and Pippa as we do both. The process is more fun and effective when we connect and do it together. ~ Paul

PC – Erin Gilmore Photography

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